One of the hardest things for a parent is to watch your child hurt. Whether it’s the pain of a bumped knee at 2 years old, the pains of a first broken heart in second grade, or the pain of disappointment because they didn’t make the high school basketball team, it all hurts to watch.
Do you know why? It’s because we can’t fix it. We can’t make the world right for our teens and that is a really hard truth to swallow!
What is sometimes even harder is when that pain is caused by the teenager themselves. The decisions and choices they make can often introduce heartache into your family.
I want to encourage you! I want to tell you that you have done a good job raising that teenager. I want you to know that your teenager’s choices do not reflect whether or not you are a good parent! It is so easy to own our kids choices, good or bad. But they are our teenagers’ choices. Not yours and not mine.
And when they make the wrong ones, and they will, show them grace. That’s what our Heavenly Father does for us. Show them mercy and forgiveness. Allow them to bear the consequences for their choices without rescuing them. Basically, show them unconditional love no matter what!
It sure was easier when they were two with a hurt knee.
Here’s a quick video to encourage those of you who are struggling with this: https://goo.gl/XwH4Ni
“The sun’ll come out…tomorrow…bet your bottom dollar that tomorrow there’ll be sun!” That song from the Broadway show “Annie” never ceases to put a smile on my face. Now sometimes it looks more like a grimace, but that depends on how bad the day actually is! And as the parent of a teenager sometimes this is all you have to hold on to. The sun does come up the next day no matter what you are dealing with today. And in that there is hope!
And that hope is the gift that God gives us each day as we walk with our teens. No matter what you are going through right now, no matter how grim or hopeless it may seem, God gives us unquenchable hope in Him. Not in each other or in our ability to control circumstances but hope in Him.
If you are in crisis with your teenager right now, hope can seem pretty far away. You are probably weary and discouraged. Isaiah 40:31 says, “Those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint!” Oh how we, as parents, need that! Renewed strength, refreshed spirits, determined hope!
When we hurt for or because of our teens, know there is hope. When our teens hurt, show them that hope!
- “Christ in you, the hope of glory!” Colossians 1:27
- When your #teen hurts, listen, listen, listen! #goodidea
- Crisis doesn’t last forever, it just feels like it. Hang on!
- Close your eyes, click your heels three times and say, “there’s no place like hope!”
- When it gets to be too much, hide…in Him! #Psalms32:7
- Write your #teen a note today telling them you love them!
- Look in the mirror and see a really great parent!
- Encourage another parent today with some of the encouragement God has given you!
- “The sun’ll come out tomorrow!” Don’t forget there can be a purpose in the clouds!
- Let God encourage you today so that you can encourage your teen!
Feel free to forward this email to other parents of teenagers and have them email me if they would like to join our online parenting class.
If you want to see previous issues you can view them here: http://blog.churchoftherock.ca/tag/parenting-teens-online-class